THE SOCIOPATHIC PERSONALITY
(Investigator 160, 2015
Some General Characteristics:
The term 'sociopath' is reserved for individuals who, as part of their
normal behaviour, display a wide range of anti-social conduct. Of
these, 75% are males.
They fall into three groups, from the lowest to the highest, these are,
(2) Exploitative, and
Impulsive sociopaths tend to be harmless, immature and impetuous
individuals (their principal fault being an inability to tell the
truth, especially about themselves). Exploitative Sociopaths are also
liars, but they are more likely to deliberately manipulate people, and
be swindlers, and confidence men. Most dangerous are the antisocial
sociopaths; these are devious, calculating people, extremely
manipulative, and often dangerous.
Overall sociopaths have a number of common behavioural characteristics.
These are: -
1. They possess superficial charm and good
intelligence: They stand out in a crowd. They tend to be extroverts,
with exceptional verbal skills, who need to be the star attraction at
every event. They constantly drop names of important 'friends'. With a
great deal of charisma they give a good impression. They know how to
manipulate and to get close to people.
2. There is no evidence that they are delusional or
experience irrational forms of thinking: They always appear very
logical, and can make the most far-fetched ideas seem totally credible.
It always appears that they have deeply researched the issue, that they
are experts, and can make it a reality (with other people's money).
3. They rarely display nervousness or worry about
their behaviour: Always cool and unruffled, even in the midst of major
crises that would cause normal people to he stressed, they retain a
4. They are unreliable and cannot be trusted: They
always have a good excuse for letting you down or failing to meet
obligations or deadlines. They are masters at finding others to cover
for them or excuse that behaviour.
5. They rarely tell the truth, and are insincere:
They live a life based upon lies and half truths yet even if caught out
and confronted with their lies it makes no impression on them. So
skilled are they at lying that when this is added to their ¬calm
demeanour they can so effectively defend the 'truthfulness' of their•
claims, that their opponents are thrown so completely off balance that
they become confused and uncertain, giving the sociopath the benefit of
6. They never show any signs of remorse or shame at
their offending: They are incapable of conceiving that their actions
could have hurt others, so will never apologize for what they have
done, no matter how bad. They tend to blame other people, so, even if
it was their suggestion that turned out badly, it is always the other
7. They rarely give reasons for their constant
antisocial behaviour: There are rarely any logical reasons for their•
antisocial behaviour. They are not always motivated simply by financial
gains, rather they seem to enjoy offending simply for the sake of
offending, as if they find it a challenge to lie and to deceive other
8. They lack insight, have extremely poor judgment
and never seem to learn by experience: Because they are so egotistical,
they ignore the needs of others and lack insight as to possible
consequences of their behaviour, so they simply ignore all
practicalities. They live in the present day; the past and future are
irrelevant to them; everything is done for immediate gratification;
they do not consider any long term consequences of their behavior.
Their egotism is so extreme they believe themselves incapable of error,
so do not learn from their mistakes. Failures are always blamed on
others, and they then produce a new "sure-fire" scheme. They are
frequently involved with questionable schemes and brushes with the law.
9. They are egocentric and are unable to love anyone
but themselves: They can he extremely charming to the point where
sociopaths are hard to resist. They will make all sorts of 'sincere'
promises, which, although they appear genuine are simply a means to an
end. They simply want what the victim can provide, money, sex, care, or
accommodation. They can rarely see problems in a relationship, because
as long as the sociopath is getting what they want, they ignore every
other reality. When the other partner dares to suggest there are
problems they react fiercely, unable to understand how anyone could see
them as anything hut a likeable individual who can do no wrong. A
further aspect is that their self interest overrides any possibility of
feeling affection or love for others. Friendships are generally
superficial; although they know many people, they are merely 'contacts'
and their relationships with others are generally shallow and phony.
10. They dominate every relationship: Whatever
relationship they are in, whether it is at work or marriage, they must
he in control. They consider themselves so superior to everyone else
that it is only natural that they should run the show. To reinforce
their own perceived superiority, especially in a close personal
relationship, they will constantly belittle people. With female
partners they will destroy their individuality, constantly, questioning
their personal abilities, until they become totally subservient to the
11. While they will often threaten suicide, their
threats are rarely genuine: Such threats are designed to win sympathy,
to manipulate others to giving in to their needs.
12. Their sex life is impersonal, trivial, and poorly
integrated: Their sex life is based upon gaining immediate physical
gratification and their personal commitment is limited to the
availability of willing partners. Although sexual relations might be
great, as sociopaths are usually performers, it rarely involves any
emotional attachment. Although when they move on they have already made
the decision some time beforehand, they will always blame the other
partner for the "breakdown in the relationship". They will then move
onto the next partner without the slightest feeling of regret. He will
then blame his former partner who "did not understand him" — it is
always her fault, and in this way he extracts a great deal of sympathy
from his new partner, who wants to help him recover.
13. They fail to follow any proper life plan: This can be the most
difficult aspect for the partners of sociopaths. Although they make big
plans, which do not come to fruition, they start projects hut rarely
finish them. Although they can make their plans sound logical, they are
always totally unrealistic. As each scheme fails there is always
another being hatched.
Life With The Sociopathic Personality
Within the previous outline of sociopathic behaviours one will see are
many attributes that each person possesses, yet not all are sociopaths.
To determine whether an individual is possibly a sociopath one must
look at the overall number of abnormal patterns of behaviours displayed
by a particular individual. It is generally accepted by health
professionals that, if an individual displays at least four or more of
the characteristics outlined above, then that person is a sociopath.
If you are involved with a sociopath you have probably already
suspected something was not quite right. Life will be a regular cycle
of highs and lows, from extreme optimism and big plans, to that of
failed dreams and blighted hopes. There will be constant uncertainty,
with finances constantly in disarray. Money will be squandered on
unnecessary things, so that there is never enough to pay essential
bills. There are always unexpected debts, and a constant stream of
creditors chasing payments.
There may be suspicions of a lack of genuine concern or respect for
you; the feeling that you do not really know this man you live with. On
one hand he will constantly tell you how lucky you are to have such a
marvelous/interesting charming partner. However, if you express doubts
you will be accused of being ungrateful. Questions will be met with
hostility, overreaction, as well as possible verbal and physical abuse.
There will be a steady pattern of having your normality as a person
being questioned. There will be the constant uncertainty, and his
refusal to accept responsibility. You may try to adapt to your partner
but the rules keep changing. There is no certainty about what tomorrow
Realize that this person cannot be changed or cured. He will never
change his behaviour, or grow out of it. He will always he
irresponsible. He will always remain the same now, and in the future.
The only difference you can expect is that you will both grow older.
All is not lost:
• You can change the way his behaviour impacts on you
and your life.
• You can focus on what positives he has and accept
• You can learn to manage the money and hold firmly
onto the purse strings.
• You can invest in friends who will help you keep in
touch with reality.
• You can understand his abnormal personality and not
feel responsible for his life.
• You can stay or leave the relationship.
• Accept that you are his life partner not his
mother, manager, keeper, or rescuer.